For more than 40 years, researchers have studied Intimate Partner Violence, providing insight into the problem and offering solutions for decreasing the epidemic of intimate partner homicide. With increased awareness, laws and services, intimate partner homicides of males in the U.S. have significantly decreased since 1980. However, homicides of women are increasing, intimate partner violence in teen dating relationships is on the rise, and more than half of all mass shootings in the U.S. have been linked to domestic violence. We recommend that you watch the film before commenting to gain a better understanding of the conversation!

Sandra L. Brown

Sandra L. Brown, MA is the Director of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education ( She is referenced as the ‘pioneer of the psychopathic/narcissistic abuse field.’ Her book Women Who Love Psychopaths/Narcissists was the seminal book on the topic of psychopathic and narcissistic relationships from which the field began. The Institute has since continued to produce the largest studies, data collections, and research on the relational dynamics and the survivor’s trauma and personality. Sandra is the current president of The Assn for NPD/Psychopathy Survivor Treatment, Research & Education ( and the creator The Living Recovery Program an online trauma reduction for survivors of psychopaths/narcissists.

Domestic violence’s danger that has been catalogued in Finding Jenn’s Voice is a haunting reality and reminder about how far we have not come societally in the ability to squelch this form of violence and often fatality.  

I’m Sandra L. Brown, M.A. and I have spent the last 30+ years of my career working with survivors, developing awareness and treatment approaches, and even research, on a particular focus within intimate partner violenceâ??abusers that are the most LIKELY to reoffend, don’t benefit from Batterer Intervention, and are most likely to seriously or fatally injure. 

The sad fact is, we have known exactly which abusers and what disorders they have that are likely to be the most dangerous of all.  Lots of research points to the types of personality configurations and other co-existing mental health issues that make them the most impulse-riddled and dangerous of all partners.  But you don’t hear a lot about that, do you?  Abusers tend to get lumped together as if all abusers are the same, that they all can have the same treatment outcomes, and carry the same risk, or non-risk.  

But research has shown us who we need to be most concerned with, and why; and which survivor partners are at higher risk with these abusers than others; and why public pathology awareness is critical for identifying the most unsafe amongst us.  

My work has been focused on educating the public on what research has repeatedly shown us:

Those most likely to not benefit from treatment, not change, harms to a higher injurious level (even fatal level), perpetrates the most ‘psychological’ harm and is insidiously unrecognized are the disorders of:

Narcissism, Anti-Social Personality Disorder and Psychopathy.

My years in this work has led me to study the survivor’s of these pathological partners, catalogue the depth and breadth of their trauma, differentiate it from other types of ‘situational’ abusers, and research who is targeted by these predatorial types, and why. 

My blog on this site will focus on what we call ‘pathological love relationships’ (often referred to as narcissistic or psychopathic abuse). I will share survivor recovery information, public pathology educational information, and information on survivor’s ‘trait targeting.’  

My hope is that we will continue to draw awareness to the fact that all abusers are not created equal and who are the ones society needs to be the most concerned about and teach others how to spot them.  

Sandra L. Brown, MA

The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education 

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