There was no physical violence leading up to his failed attempt to murder me with an axe, and the subsequent punishment-murder of my son. There were many red flags that became increasingly harder to dismiss (as we do) and I knew it was time to leave. I needed a safety plan, but I didn't even realize I was in an "abusive" situation. I knew something bad was going to happen but would have never predicted murder. In this blog, I will share some of those red flags with you.